How to Lead Without Carrots or Sticks

by Evil HR Lady on July 7, 2015

“If you exceed all your goals for the year, you’ll get a 20 percent bonus.” “If you come in late again, I’m writing you up. The next step after that is a final warning. Then, if you come in late a 3rd time, you’re fired.” So many managers rely on these carrots and sticks to get performance out of their employees. And why not? They work, don’t they? We work hard to get the bonus, or we straighten up and fly right in order to keep from getting fired. Anyone can do carrot/stick management. But, leaders lead without carrots or sticks. Can you learn how to do that? You bet. Here’s how.

Behave how you want your team to behave.

Do you come in late, but hate it when your staff does that? Do you want all emails responded to the same day, but it takes you 3 weeks and 6 reminders to answer a question from a direct report? It’s no wonder this method doesn’t work. If you want toconvey that something is important, do that thing yourself.

To keep reading, click here: How to Lead Without Carrots of Sticks

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Why You Should Focus on the B Players

by Evil HR Lady on July 7, 2015

Companies always talk about having a great A team—these are the go-getters, the ones who are looking to climb the ladder as fast as possible.

Businesses invest a tremendous amount of time and money developing these people. But what about everyone else? What about your B team? Should you work to develop them?

Krisi Rossi O’Donnell, Vice President of Staffing & Recruiting at LaSalle Network, thinks you should focus on your B players and there are many reasons why. We break them down below.

To keep reading, click here: Why You Should Focus on the B Players


Happy Independence Day

by Evil HR Lady on July 4, 2015



I Think My Boss is Stealing From Me

by Evil HR Lady on July 3, 2015

I am a new hire at a Fortune 100 tech company. It’s a sales position, and this is my first job out of college. Just days into the job I landed my first sale — a big one for a $250,000 software contract. I am about to close my second sale, this one for a $100,000 contract. I was excited until I was told that because my compensation package had not yet been signed and finalized, I would not be receiving nearly $5,000 in commission for these deals. I’m angry, and I don’t know what to do to get paid and make sure this doesn’t happen again.

To read the answer, click here: I Think My Boss is Stealing From Me


I am currently underemployed by my current company. When I started out in their training program I was told I would have the opportunity to work in a variety of different departments. I loved this training program and was very happy, using my knowledge and skill from my degree. After finishing, however, the only open positions were in a department that does not only not utilize my degree, but also makes me flat out miserable.

I have been so miserable, that only a few months into this new role, I started applying elsewhere. I was given an offer from a different (non-competitor) company that is in a location I love, a better salary, will use my degree, and more importantly, accelerate my career by about 3-5 years.

Sounds perfect, right? Well, the only problem is I signed a relocation payback agreement with my current company and I’m in the hole for around $20,000. A colleague of mine who left the company told me that they allowed him to repay on a monthly plan and I am sure they will do the same for me.

However, he owes the company much less and I already have student loan debt. I know you are not here to give financial advice, but would you suggest making a move to advance a career if it puts the person in debt?

First of all, I hate debt. It eats at your soul. It binds you to people you don’t wish to be bound to. It’s horrible and my official policy is that you should only go into debt for 3 things: Housing (within your means!), education (again, no $150,000 loans for a degree in basket weaving), and a functional car (no debt for a sports car). So, generally, you can expect my response to be, “suck it up, buttercup. You signed a relocation agreement and you’re stuck!”

But, nothing in real life is ever that simple. I’d say you should never, ever, go in debt for a vacation. But, if that vacation is to see your 92-year-old grandmother who is close to death and who raised you, then yeah, put those airplane tickets on a credit card. So, ask yourself the following questions.

1. Will the new company pay off the debt for me? This is not unusual, by the way. You must be pretty awesome for a company to offer you relocation worth $20k, so the new company probably thinks you’re pretty awesome as well. They may be willing to pay part or all of the debt.

2. How much is the salary difference? and How fast can I pay off the $20k? I’m sure the old company will allow you to make payments–it’s in their best interest to do so. But, if big new salary is $62k compared to the current salary of $60k, it’s going to take an awful long time to make up that difference. If it’s a $10,000 raise, then you can, obviously, pay it back faster. I certainly would be leery of anything you can’t pay back in a year. If you’re the type that spends, spends, spends, don’t do this. If you’re a disciplined soul who can live on rice and beans, then it’s not as bad of a deal.

3. Is the grass really greener? Your current position is awful. It doesn’t fit your skills. It’s not what you want to do. Clear. But, you’re supposed to work in a variety of departments. How much longer are you going to be in the awful role? Does it make sense to take on $20,000 worth of debt in order to get out of 6 months of work you don’t like? It wouldn’t be for me, but it might be for you. And, you came to this job convinced that this was the greatest thing since sliced bread and now it stinks. How do you know that the new job won’t turn out to be just as lousy–plus debt!

4. Is this a bridge you want to burn? You’re thinking of the relocation money. Repaying that brings you up morally and legally with the old company. This is swell. However, they’ve invested a lot more than relocation in you. You’ve been through a training program that undoubtedly cost the company more money than you earned for them in that training. While you don’t have to pay this back, you are seriously burning bridges by leaving so soon. Your current boss and the development program leaders are going to be loathe to give you a good reference, unless they recognize that they made the mistake in placing you in the wrong place. Don’t count on that.

5. Have you talked with your current boss? You’re in a rotational program. Is your current boss aware of your desire to move on? It may be possible to transfer you out tomorrow (well, not tomorrow, but still). Have you asked? You may be taking on huge debt to solve a problem that isn’t really a problem.

Think through these things and I think it will help you make a good decision.



The hardest and smartest work should get the promotion and the praise, right? But it doesn’t always work out that way. Every wondered why ability isn’t always king? Baseball Coach Jon Loomer identified 12 Factors Other Than Ability That Impact Playing Time for his teams. The principles transfer easily to the business world, so with his permission, here is why being good at your job isn’t good enough.

1. Do you hustle?

Coach Loomer says “A primary goal of every coach should be to hustle more than the opposition. If you run harder and work harder than the other team, you are making them earn everything.” Your competition isn’t always as obvious off the field as it is on the field. Did Marriott know that it was going to be in direct competition with a little company called Airbnb? Not at the beginning they didn’t.

Your need to be moving, looking, seeing. Never walk to a base when you can run-you may think your idea is so awesome you can take forever getting to the next step, but your competition is hustling, and they might get you.

To keep reading, click here: 12 Factors Other Than Ability That Impact Your Success at Work


Are you overworked, yet happy at work? If so, you’re not alone. Staples Advantage, the business-to-business division of Staples, released a new survey today that shows that Americans are both overworked and happy. Confused?

Fifty-three percent of Americans feel overwhelmed at work, but 86 percent are still happy and motivated. Why are those numbers not compatible? It seems that working hard can help towards happiness. Too much free time can make you bored and unmotivated. Have you ever had a job where you had too little to do? It’s incredibly tedious to have to sit at a desk with nothing to do, pretending to be busy. When you’re overworked, you have a lot going on all the time, and you’re constantly engaged.

But don’t take that to mean that overworking your employees can make them happier. Burnout still happens, and too much work can lead to that. Here is what else is going on in the American work force:

To keep reading click here: Americans Are Overworked, but Still Surprisingly Happy on the Job

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How to Ask for a Vacation When You’re New to a Job

by Evil HR Lady on June 25, 2015

It’s summer time, which means your thoughts turn to vacation. If you’re new at a job, what are the rules about asking to take vacation time?

In a lot of jobs, you earn vacation time, which means that you can’t take a few days off until you’ve worked long enough to have earned time off. But some jobs grant you vacation on your first day of work. Can you take a vacation – and succeed on the new job – when you’ve only been there for a month?

To keep reading, click here: How to Ask for a Vacation When You’re New to a Job


My employer (hospital ER) seems to have an outdated dress code. ER staff are expected to cover all their tattoos with long sleeves, and to maintain their hair in “conventional” colors. This hospital is located in a large, liberal city. It’s also in the ‘hood, if you know what I mean, and tattoos or blue hair are commonplace.

While I, myself, don’t have body ink, and my hair is now a graying shadow of its former self, I think the focus on tattoos and hair color has become out of hand. We almost lost one of our best RNs because of management harassment over her lavender hair, and there is a definite loss of per diem and temporary staff, who don’t want to wear long sleeves and can find plenty of work elsewhere. 

What should my colleagues do? The dress code seems entirely out of date for the times we live in, and whether or not I agree or practice it myself, shouldn’t the dress code reflect the times we live in? Forcing a professional nurse to wear long sleeves seems like a mandate from another century, when nurses were required to be plain and conservative.


8 Tips for Success as a Team Leader

by Evil HR Lady on June 23, 2015

You’re a team leader! Congratulations on your leadership role. But, what exactly does a team leader do? It’s not quite a manager role – most team leaders don’t have hire/fire power over their team members – but it’s not the same as being a regular individual contributor.

While every company and every department will vary, here are some of the things that all team leaders can do to make their teams and their leadership role a success.

To read the tips, click here: 8 Tips for Success as a Team Leader