A few months ago I wrote this piece, Forced to resign: What are your options? in which I pointed out that no one can force you to resign. Because if you don’t resign, what are they going to do? Fire you?
For some reason this concept is exceedingly difficult to swallow for people and I’ve gotten a ton of emails from people saying how they were forced to resign.
Let me be clear. YOU CANNOT BE FORCED TO RESIGN.
Ahem, sorry about the screaming. Unless someone is holding a gun to your head, or threatening your family, you are choosing to resign. (And if they are forcing you, then please call the police and press charges.)
The world is a much happier place when we all accept that we make choices. And those choices have consequences.
Donna Ballman has a great list of when to decide whether to resign or wait to be fired, in her piece, “My employer says I have to resign. What do I do?”
Feeling pressured to resign, sure that happens. But, forced? No. You have options. You can say no. You can negotiate. Do not be a wimp when it comes to your own career.
Do not sign anything you don’t feel comfortable with. Get copies of everything you sign. Make choices. And then take accountability for your choices. Practice saying, “I chose to do this because…”
Okay, I’m done ranting.